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Why? “All about letting yourself and everyone else…”

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This is as good as any time to explain the Subtitle of this blog, “It’s all about letting Yourself and Everyone Else ‘off the hook’!”

So, why did I choose to use that as a subtitle?

Okay… I’ll tell ya’! :-)

I have found over the decades of coaching people that most feelings that do not feel good are due to the fact that we are usually doing one of the following things:

  • Beating up on ourselves for something we did or said.
  • Beating up on ourselves for something we didn’t do or didn’t say and maybe we “should have”. (Those first 2 on this list are related and are otherwise known as trying to “re-write history”.)
  • Judging others as being wrong.
  • Wanting others to behave a certain way and trying to figure out how we can get them to behave differently.
  • Blaming others for how we feel.
  • Explaining, Justifying, Rationalizing.

I am just curious - how much time and energy do you spend doing one of the things I mentioned? ;-)

What if… we let ourselves off the hook for whatever happened (or didn’t happen)?

What if… we let everyone else off the hook for whatever happened (or didn’t happen)?

What if… we chalked everything up - I do mean EVERY THING - up to “contrast”?

In other words, whatever happens in our lives - whatever we experience, is an opportunity to see what it is we do not want, which gives us a picture perfect idea of what we do want instead!

Well, that looks good on paper, doesn’t it?

In other words, if we were able to just snap our fingers and look at each situation as an item on a menu to choose from, that would certainly be the case.

We would be saying,

Peas? No thanks!

But Corn? YES!

Blue sweater? Nah.

But look at this Green sweater! YES!

See how easy it would be?

But when it comes to Relationships, we are also usually pretty attached to the outcome. We want things to go the way WE want them to go.

In other words, when others in our lives are not BEing and DOing what we want them to do, it affects our mood.

So, how do we “unhook” from all that stuff?

How do we effortlessly pivot from the icky feelings that crop up when we experience something from the buffet of interactions with people that is not to our liking?

Isn’t that tougher? Shouldn’t somebody DO something about all those people and how they behave? How they treat me?

Good questions. Here is what Abraham-Hicks says on this:

You teach each other your respective responsive vibrations

[Guest in the Hot Seat is having difficult interactions with his stepdaughter]

Abraham: And you gather up this new resolve that it is going to be different in your experience and then you walk right into the face of that. We want you to understand what it is that you’re bumping up against that’s making you so nuts.

It isn’t her choosing things that disagree with your choices. That’s not what’s making you so uncomfortable. It is her own personal discord that you are bumping up against that is making you uncomfortable. We know the trap. It’s like, “Well I’m only responding to what she’s taught me.” And this is the thing that we want so much for you all to hear from us here today:

You teach each other your respective responsive vibrations. In other words, you don’t feel any way about anyone without their helping you to feel that way. It’s really co-creation. We’ll even go further, and bolder, and louder, and blunter. If there’s somebody you don’t like, they don’t like you either!

We have never seen it otherwise. We have never one time, ever, known someone to adore someone… that the one that they were adoring, didn’t adore them back!

Now, some are thinking.. “Oh wait a minute. There was that man that I loved with all my heart, and he didn’t love me back.” And we say, you were offering him insecurity. You were offering him worry. It wasn’t that pure vibration of love.

When you are tuned in, tapped in, turned on — when you are connected to your Source and holding someone as your object of attention and you are genuinely offering that feeling of love and appreciation — they can’t offer you anything else! The law of attraction, that manager called law of attraction would not put you together… even when you live in the same house. You would rendezvous differently. You would come home when she’s not there; she’d come home when you’re not there. Or she would be unavailable or she’d be doing something else. You would really have to work hard to seek out those incompatible moments, when you are in that place of pure positive energy. It just could not happen, you see.

So. What we’re suggesting to you - and we are certainly understanding how it came about - your dominate vibration about this girl - is bringing you nothing but grief. And somebody should do something about it — and it’s not her.

Abraham-Hicks.com Sacramento, CA 7/27/02

That was a great example and even tho’ the relationship example may appear to be a specific one, it applies to all relationships. Spouses, siblings, co-workers.

So, let them off the hook for what is going on. Offer what it is you are wanting in return, in an easy and relaxed manner.

And if there is something that keeps surfacing about them - some characteristic of theirs that keeps triggering you - if this person seems to just bring out the worst in you?

Chances are they are mirroring something that bothers you - about you. Let yourself off the hook about that, too. Do some EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) around the thoughts and feelings that are coming up and see how much different your relationships are. Your relationship with others and first and foremost, your relationship with you! :-)

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