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You act like you don’t have control of the remote

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Abraham-Hicks says the following:

It’s tricky because most of you have trained yourself completely to just sloppily look around and have kneejerk emotional responses to What Is.

So if you see something really cute on television you say, Oh that’s so cute! And if you see something really horrible you say, Oh that’s so horrible!

But you act like you don’t have control of the remote!

Abraham-Hicks.com Boca Raton, FL, 10-30-06

So, what could cause someone to FEEL that they do not have control over their own remote? Well, throughout my many years of studying human behavior (my own and others) and through the vast studying I have done via books and courses I have taken - it can be summed up in a few words.

You have been sold a bill of goods.

We were taught at an early age that we were not capable / not worthy / not good enough / not smart enough (fill in the blank for your particular situation)!

And therefore, no amount of just plain old wishful thinking and positive thinking can erase those “truths” that you have picked up along the way. And by the way, I am using the word “truths” sort of tongue-in-cheek because those “truths” are actually limiting beliefs that someone else laid on us and they have been passed down from generation to generation, usually with NO questioning by the ones passing it down.

Here is the best example of how this could have happened (quite innocently, I might add as you will see from this cute story):

Once upon a time a mother and daughter who were working together preparing the Easter dinner. At one point, the mother took from the refrigerator, the ham that had been defrosting. Before putting it in the oven, she cut about an inch off of both ends of the ham.

“Mom why did you cut the ends off the ham?”, the daughter asked.

The mother thought for a moment, and then replied, “That’s the way my mother always did it.”

Overcome with curiosity, as often children are, the little girl asked if she could call Grandma and ask her.

“Grandma, Mommy cuts the end off the ham before she cooks it and says that’s what you always did. Is that true?”

“Yes, dear, that true. I always did it that way.”

“But why Grandma?”

Grandmother thought for a moment and replied, “Because that is the way my mother always did it.”

At this point, nothing would do other than to call Great Grandma.

“Great Grandma, Mommy cuts the ends off the ham before she cooks it. She says she does it becomes Grandma did it. Grandma says she did it because you did. Is it true that you cut the ends off the ham?”

“Yes, indeed, my dear. I always did it that way.”

“But why, Great Grandma?”

Holding her hands about 10 inches apart, the great grandmother replied, “Because my pan was only that long.”

Now, I called it cute because this story on the surface is about cooking ham. And it is NOT so cute when it comes to beliefs about ourselves and our abilities and how the world works.

So, what have you picked up along the way and/or been taught that just flat out is not true!?

Here is some examples that I have heard over and over from folks:

“You are too young (or too old) for that.”
“You don’t have enough education.”
“You are a woman and are limited by the glass ceiling.”
“You are a minority.”
“People who take risks end up broke.”
“Getting ahead depends on who you know.”
“Rich people are dishonest.”
“It takes money to make money.”
“You have to work hard to make money.”
“Money does not grow on trees.”
“It’s better to give than receive.”

Did you see that last one? That one teaching has closed the door to more abundance than anything else I have run across in my 30-some years of coaching people!

In other words, if you BELIEVE (and a belief is just a thought that you keep pondering) that “It’s better to give than receive.”… is it any wonder that you give, give, give and Then, when someone tries to give YOU something, like treat you to lunch or run an errand for you, your knee-jerk reaction is: “Oh… you don’t have to do that!”

Hello-o-o-o-o-o-o???!!!!

That is the Universe (God, whomever or whatever you believe in) dropping off your stuff and you are politely and graciously saying, “NO THANKS!” :-(

Anyway, through this series of Blog posts, videos and podcasts, we are going to be addressing some more of these things that are happening both consciously and unconsciously so that YOU CAN BE DRIVING YOUR OWN REMOTE!

And no longer allowing somebody’s Grandmother to drive it, with a short pan! :-)

Much love,

Pat

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Comments

3 Responses to “You act like you don’t have control of the remote”

  1. Gina on October 10th, 2007 12:58 am

    Great article!
    :-) Gina

  2. Parise on October 10th, 2007 1:31 am

    I’ve read these many times, but not the way your wrote it, Pat. Someone here will enjoy these - keep them coming!
    Parise

  3. Pat on October 20th, 2007 11:36 am

    I have a couple of technical issues I am molding into place and then, I will be putting up some more really great stuff!

    If you have specific topics you would like to know about, please let me know! Thanks! :-)

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