Nov

10

How Do I Change My Opinion of Myself?

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There are many folks that have asked me how to improve their opinion of themselves so that they are not reliant on others to give them feedback that they are okay.

There are many processes to do that and EFT is one of the best ways I have found.

This particular podcast by Carol Look and Rick Wilkes does the very best job I know of explaining this.

EFT-Talk Podcast #5 — How can I improve my self-esteem NOW using EFT?

  • You can raise your self-esteem right now by accepting where you are right now… but we usually get stuck WAITING for things to get better before we allow ourselves to feel good.
  • Using EFT and the law of attraction, you can make a shift to increasing your self-esteem while changing the underlying negative energies that are causing the behaviors you don’t want in your life.

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Nov

2

Contrast Creates Clarity

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Abraham-Hicks says about Clarity:

So often, you say, to us, “Abraham, I want more money but I don’t know where it will come from. I would really like to have more money. I know a lot of people that have money. I believe that money could come to me, but it doesn’t come to me. I don’t understand why it doesn’t come to me. It comes to them. I know that money is a good thing and I believe that there are ways, but why doesn’t it come to me?”

It is like wanting a nice cup of hot tea, so you turn the water on. You put the fire on under your teapot and you turn it on, and then, right before it boils you turn it off. And then you turn it on again, and right before it boils you turn it off. And then you turn it on again, and right before it boils you turn it off. And then you say, “For ten years I’ve been trying to get hot water,” and we say, “Just leave it on.”

You have been trained to be very objective, to weigh the pros and the cons, the pluses and the minuses. Actually, part of that is a good thing, because contrast is necessary for you to come to a decision. And while it seems like a weak reason to you when you are living something you really don’t want, from your broader Nonphysical Perspective you would not give up this contrast for anything.

Without knowing what is not wanted, you could not identify what is wanted.

So, the key is, as human Deliberate Creators, you must find a way that you can utilize the contrast in order to decide what is wanted. What you’re wanting to do is to sift through the data of contrast with an intent to select from it what you are wanting.

When you peruse the contrast for the intent of choosing what you do want, you’re using contrast in the way you were born to do it. You’re using contrast in the way your Inner Being does. But when you sift through the contrast to define what is not wanted and you hold that resistant stance as you say, “No, I want not this,” now you have turned contrast, which would have served you well, into resistance, which never serves you well.

Abraham-Hicks.com - July/August/September 1998 Newsletter

The Universe (God, whatever, whomever you believe in) does not give us “what we want”. It gives us what we are a vibrational match to.

So, what is a practical way to use clarity to determine what it is we want instead (of what we are experiencing) - and then, be able to use various processes to become a vibrational match to that?

It’s easy really. And to demonstrate what that looks like specifically, you may want to follow along as I Coach someone on this exact Subject.

First, you will want to listen to this Coaching Call:
“Why have I still not attracted a job after 9 months?”

Then, wander over to The Art of Living THE SECRET Forum for the exercise that is a great clarity-gaining exercise!

Oct

30

“Cleaning up your vibration on Relationships”

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Abraham-Hicks recommends we “clean up your vibration on every subject”.

Here is a quote from them on this, with the Subject of Relationships, as an example:

Clean up your vibration on every subject ….

So let’s say when you were in high school someone mistreated you in some way and you never really got over it. You remember the hurt, you remember the wrongdoing, you remember how you felt, you remember the disadvantage that you took away from it.

But then you left there. Eventually you stopped talking about that person. And while you still occasionally have people treat you in that way, it doesn’t come up very often, and you don’t think about it all that often.

And then someone says something to you that triggers that and now it’s active again. And as you begin pondering it you feel that hurt all over again. That means your vibration never moved from that hurt. You haven’t been thinking about it so it hasn’t been a big player in your vibration. But it’s been lying there dormant with the potential of being activated. And now something has happened that activated it.

So OUR encouragement is that sooner or later you take it and you talk it downstream. You do it on purpose. It might take you two or three days, here and there, and here and there, but you leave it in a whole different place. Now you’ve left it in a different place, it doesn’t have the potential of ever being activated again. In other words, you’ve moved yourself to a new place …

So when you deliberately talk about that subject and talk yourself into alignment about it, now that can never creep up again, all of your power is right here, because all of your ability to focus is right here. And before you know it those vibrations become your dominant vibrations which makes you impervious to mistreatment, it makes it not possible for anything other than what you want to flow into your experience.

As long as anything other than that is happening, it means you’ve got those vibrations still active, so there’s still some work to do.

Abraham-Hicks.com San Francisco, 2-24-07A

So, how do we know if we have cleaned up our vibration on Relationships?

We are no longer pulled into other people’s dramas. We are no longer triggered by what other people are choosing to think or feel or what they do or don’t do. We no longer spend time trying to get others to see things differently.

We no longer feel responsible to make other people understand anything.

We have let them off the hook. We “allow” them to be whomever they want to be and do whatever they want to do.

We have also let ourselves off the hook. We “allow” ourselves to be whomever we want to be and do whatever we want to do.

This principle is actually part of “the Art of Allowing”, according to Abraham-Hicks.

The Art of Allowing is an integral part of using the law of attraction and creating consciously instead of by default. In other words, many folks think thing happen “to us” randomly.

Nothing is random. Everything is vibration. This is a vibrationally-based Universe.

Now, what I have learned by my own experience and by working with others is that we can talk ourselves into alignment (as Abraham recommends) and we can exponentially maximize the benefits by talking about it while tapping with EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique)!

Here is a LIVE Coaching Call I did with someone recently that demonstrates this beautifully! :-)

“I was only trying to help and they misunderstood my intentions!”
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EnJOY!

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Oct

17

What about Bush and the Dalai Lama?

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I had promised (or was it threatened?) LOL!
that I would begin a feature of this blog that focuses on the News, in order for us to clean up our vibration around what many folks in our lives are talking about.

As I had said, there are two ways of dealing with things such as this: Avoidance of the Subject or Cleaning up our vibration on the Subject.

I choose to do a little bit of both and this blog post will allow me to look for areas to clean up my vibration around what is going on in the government here.

So, if you want to play also…

  • How does this article make you feel? (Please click on the link below and read the whole thing.)
  • If it makes you feel less than Joyful, what is it that is irking you?
  • And what thoughts can you think instead?

Feel free to share here.

Bush Defends Honoring Dalai Lama - EarthLink - Top News

WASHINGTON - President Bush on Wednesday staunchly defended his participation in a U.S. ceremony honoring the Dalai Lama, saying “I support religious freedom, he supports religious freedom.”

At a White House news conference just hours before he was to travel to the U.S. Capitol to witness the spiritual head of Tibet’s Buddhists getting the prestigious Congressional Gold Medal, Bush told reporters, “I admire the Dalai Lama a lot” and said that U.S. relations with China would not be damaged by his position on this issue.

Looking forward to reading your responses. :-)

Pat

Oct

17

Why is learning how to use law of attraction an “Art”?

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It has been interesting to experience the feedback I have received … of course, it is feedback I have attracted :-) since launching this website on how to use law of attraction and the teachings of the principles touched on in THE SECRET Movie and THE SECRET Book by Rhonda Byrne.

Some of the feedback has been very supportive and folks are getting lots from what I have shared here, so far. Lots of AHA moments are happening. Lots of shifts in people’s thinking and therefore, in their feelings… are taking place. And GREAT things are happening in their lives.

And other folks think I have sort of lost it, because they thought I was a diehard Abraham-Hicks fan and should only talk about the Abraham-Hicks processes as THE ONLY WAY to become a vibrational match to what we want.

It could be very easy for me to start questioning my actions except for the fact that in many of the Hot Seat’s, Abraham is coaching people that are health practitioners and they are wanting to know answers from Abraham, on assisting themselves (and their clients) to move up the scale by way of the path of least resistance. The path of least resistance could be anything from taking a prescribed medication to holistic alternative medicine and modalities, such as EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique).

And it would also be very easy for me to question what I am doing if I had not had the pleasure of using what I am teaching here, in my own life. I have also taught it to many others that have had great success with it!

Well, I guess the time is now, to explain a bit about why I named this site, The Art of Living THE SECRET. First of all, here are the many definitions of the word “art” according to dictionary.com:

  1. the quality, production, expression, or realm, according to aesthetic principles, of what is beautiful, appealing, or of more than ordinary significance.
  2. the class of objects subject to aesthetic criteria; works of art collectively, as paintings, sculptures, or drawings: a museum of art; an art collection.
  3. a field, genre, or category of art: Dance is an art.
  4. the fine arts collectively, often excluding architecture: art and architecture.
  5. any field using the skills or techniques of art: advertising art; industrial art.
  6. (in printed matter) illustrative or decorative material: Is there any art with the copy for this story?
  7. the principles or methods governing any craft or branch of learning: the art of baking; the art of selling.
  8. the craft or trade using these principles or methods.
  9. skill in conducting any human activity: a master at the art of conversation.
  10. a branch of learning or university study, esp. one of the fine arts or the humanities, as music, philosophy, or literature.
  11. arts,
    a. (used with a singular verb) the humanities: a college of arts and sciences.
    b. (used with a plural verb) liberal arts.
  12. skilled workmanship, execution, or agency, as distinguished from nature.
  13. trickery; cunning: glib and devious art.
  14. studied action; artificiality in behavior.
  15. an artifice or artful device: the innumerable arts and wiles of politics.
  16. Archaic. science, learning, or scholarship.

Whew! Did you ever see so many definitions for one small 3-letter word? ;-)

And as I perused the list of options, I could very well have picked any one of them and for different reasons, as they are all so delicious! (Which one do you like?) :-)

Since the launch of THE SECRET Movie DVD, I have observed and/or interacted with the various thousands of people that have come to the forums, where I participate.

And what I have noticed is that most folks are wanting some cookie-cutter, step-by-step process to enable themselves to move from where they are this read hot minute to where they would rather be. And as others offer up different suggestions and possibilities on that person’s circumstances, there are as many opinions, as there are folks doling them out.

And bottom line? Each one of us gets to choose. Each one of use gets to explore, experiment and decide which processes seem to work the best for us!Which processes help us feel a bit better than we did the moment before.

My intention is to share what has worked for me and the folks that I have attracted to myself, as my clients. And then, YOU get to open up your box of paints, your satchel of pencils, your clump of clay, your block of wood, your slab of marble - on and on and on, I could go with the analogies - and YOU get to learn what works for YOU in how to use law of attraction and THE SECRET in Your Life.

You are the artist of your own life. Create it the way you want.

And I, for one, can’t wait to see how your canvas looks, as you mold it to what you want it to be.

So, if you resonate with the things that have worked for me… GREAT! Feel free to try them on for size. If it is not your cup of tea… that’s okay, also.

And guess what? Now, you know… right?

Now. you know what you don’t like… which moves you one step further than you were before you knew that. So, the information here still made a difference. :-)

Coming up: Stay tuned for the rest of the story, which will explain why the subtitle of “It’s all about letting Yourself and Everyone Else ‘ off the hook’!” in this series on how to use law of attraction and the principles of the teachings touched on in THE SECRET Movie…

[Special Note: The explanation for the subtitle is now listed below.] 
Pat
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Oct

9

You act like you don’t have control of the remote

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Abraham-Hicks says the following:

It’s tricky because most of you have trained yourself completely to just sloppily look around and have kneejerk emotional responses to What Is.

So if you see something really cute on television you say, Oh that’s so cute! And if you see something really horrible you say, Oh that’s so horrible!

But you act like you don’t have control of the remote!

Abraham-Hicks.com Boca Raton, FL, 10-30-06

So, what could cause someone to FEEL that they do not have control over their own remote? Well, throughout my many years of studying human behavior (my own and others) and through the vast studying I have done via books and courses I have taken - it can be summed up in a few words.

You have been sold a bill of goods.

We were taught at an early age that we were not capable / not worthy / not good enough / not smart enough (fill in the blank for your particular situation)!

And therefore, no amount of just plain old wishful thinking and positive thinking can erase those “truths” that you have picked up along the way. And by the way, I am using the word “truths” sort of tongue-in-cheek because those “truths” are actually limiting beliefs that someone else laid on us and they have been passed down from generation to generation, usually with NO questioning by the ones passing it down.

Here is the best example of how this could have happened (quite innocently, I might add as you will see from this cute story):

Once upon a time a mother and daughter who were working together preparing the Easter dinner. At one point, the mother took from the refrigerator, the ham that had been defrosting. Before putting it in the oven, she cut about an inch off of both ends of the ham.

“Mom why did you cut the ends off the ham?”, the daughter asked.

The mother thought for a moment, and then replied, “That’s the way my mother always did it.”

Overcome with curiosity, as often children are, the little girl asked if she could call Grandma and ask her.

“Grandma, Mommy cuts the end off the ham before she cooks it and says that’s what you always did. Is that true?”

“Yes, dear, that true. I always did it that way.”

“But why Grandma?”

Grandmother thought for a moment and replied, “Because that is the way my mother always did it.”

At this point, nothing would do other than to call Great Grandma.

“Great Grandma, Mommy cuts the ends off the ham before she cooks it. She says she does it becomes Grandma did it. Grandma says she did it because you did. Is it true that you cut the ends off the ham?”

“Yes, indeed, my dear. I always did it that way.”

“But why, Great Grandma?”

Holding her hands about 10 inches apart, the great grandmother replied, “Because my pan was only that long.”

Now, I called it cute because this story on the surface is about cooking ham. And it is NOT so cute when it comes to beliefs about ourselves and our abilities and how the world works.

So, what have you picked up along the way and/or been taught that just flat out is not true!?

Here is some examples that I have heard over and over from folks:

“You are too young (or too old) for that.”
“You don’t have enough education.”
“You are a woman and are limited by the glass ceiling.”
“You are a minority.”
“People who take risks end up broke.”
“Getting ahead depends on who you know.”
“Rich people are dishonest.”
“It takes money to make money.”
“You have to work hard to make money.”
“Money does not grow on trees.”
“It’s better to give than receive.”

Did you see that last one? That one teaching has closed the door to more abundance than anything else I have run across in my 30-some years of coaching people!

In other words, if you BELIEVE (and a belief is just a thought that you keep pondering) that “It’s better to give than receive.”… is it any wonder that you give, give, give and Then, when someone tries to give YOU something, like treat you to lunch or run an errand for you, your knee-jerk reaction is: “Oh… you don’t have to do that!”

Hello-o-o-o-o-o-o???!!!!

That is the Universe (God, whomever or whatever you believe in) dropping off your stuff and you are politely and graciously saying, “NO THANKS!” :-(

Anyway, through this series of Blog posts, videos and podcasts, we are going to be addressing some more of these things that are happening both consciously and unconsciously so that YOU CAN BE DRIVING YOUR OWN REMOTE!

And no longer allowing somebody’s Grandmother to drive it, with a short pan! :-)

Much love,

Pat

Oct

8

“Cleaning up your Vibration on Money” Video Series

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Hi Everyone,

Welcome to this new FREE Online Course on “Cleaning up your Vibration on Money”.

I am pleased to offer this, as this process has changed not only my life and also the lives of many people I have worked with over the past year or so!

And what is really funny is: When I started reading Abraham-Hicks’ new book, they are modeling using a process very similar to what I have been using (except I have added the EFT tapping, of course). :-)

Here is a sample chapter from their latest book, as of this writing:
I Have So Little Money, with No Improvement in Sight.

Please go read that chapter from Abraham-Hicks and then, come right back!

* * * I’m waiting for you. Take your time. * * *

Great! You’re back! :-) Wasn’t that fantastic?!

Now, what I am about to demonstrate is how to do the Abe process and add EFT to it. :-)

In order to get the most from this, you will want to be familiar with the meridian points shown here. (Carol Look does the best job, in my opinion of showing what this all means.) And you will want to print out the Emotional Guidance Scale provided by Abraham-Hicks.

The rest will be explained in the videos here:

Cleaning up your Vibration on Money - Video 1

Cleaning up your Vibration on Money - Video 2

Cleaning up your Vibration on Money - Video 3

Cleaning up your Vibration on Money - Video 4

Cleaning up your Vibration on Money - Video 5

Then, pop on over to the new Art of Living THE SECRET Forum and share what AHA’s you have gotten! Or the information may just be a confirmation of what you already knew and you can share that! And obviously, feel free to ask questions about it!

There will be more videos provided along with a vibration exercise, and I wanted to get some feedback on the first few to see if I needed to make something more clear before I went any further!

So, please give me feedback and questions on what you see now!

Thanks! :-)

Pat

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Sep

26

If you were the Coach…

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This is going to be a new feature of this blog that I will be announcing soon.

Right now, I am just building out the site, so bookmark this site and stay tuned for the big launch!